Hello! It’s me Again.

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It’s been a while. I’d love to catch you up on what’s been going on, but there’s so much to say and barely enough attention and time — so I’ll get to it.

Every so often, I set goals for myself and strategize (on) how to get to the destination. I’m okay most of the time — I do what I intend to do — but sometimes I can’t believe myself.
There are a couple of things I’ve been getting wrong, and perhaps my writing them down will help with my thought process.

I like to believe that I’m in control of my body — aware of why I am the way I am and why I do things the way I do — but this isn’t 100% accurate. Like that scene from Transformers: The Last Knight where KSI build Megatron a new body.

Sometimes, I don’t believe I can do what I intend to. Other times I don’t do what I need/want to do, and such actions have me standing against myself — standing in my way.

I can’t talk about this without mentioning the usual suspects: self-sabotage, imposter syndrome, low self-esteem, negative self-talk, comparison, dwelling on the past and over-strategizing.
You’ve already heard/read about these usual suspects, so let’s lightly talk about something different today. Let’s talk/think about destinations and why they eventually turn out to be illusions when coupled up with the usual suspects.

I’ll start by clarifying that the destination I’ll be talking about is not literal (like a beach house in Soho or your favourite eat-out place) but figurative. Examples include: Graduating from a learning institution as a destination. Relationships/marriage as destinations.

The thing with intangible stuff is that the boundaries can move — Why stop at a degree when you can get a PhD? Why continue investing in a relationship/marriage when you’ve already secured the prize?
I thought elementary education was challenging until I joined a tertiary institution. I thought getting a degree was hard, but working a job while trying to build two businesses surpassed that experience — and isn’t this the trend? (that) people and things become more complex and challenging as we grow.

Imagine that your life is an infinite flight of stairs and the next step up demands more than the step below.
We don’t stop learning even though we graduate and get degrees and PhDs. We don’t stop putting in the work in our relationships when we get married.

Do you remember dreaming and praying to be where you are now? Do you remember thinking that you’d be so happy and so satisfied? How are things now? (don’t lie!)

The fact that we can move the start/finish boundaries presents both a challenge and an opportunity. (depending on how you take it). On the extreme edges of the spectrum — you can either settle or never be satisfied. Isn’t this the rule instead of the exception?

I’m not here to give you advice. I’m here to help you question and understand a couple of things. We believe so many strange things, and I’ll tell you mine if you tell me yours. I’m always down for a conversation.

Be on the lookout for an article next week on how destinations are illusions and the interplay with the usual suspects.

Comment, like and follow this page if you’re interested in such conversations, and I’ll see you next week! Thank you for your time.

Be kind and take it easy.



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